My entire life I’ve been labeled/typecast as masungit, snob, mataray, etc. and up until now I’ve been trying to shrug it off. But because I’ve been getting frequent comments like “Ngiti naman dyan” or “Ba’t ka nakasimangot?” lately (and mind you, I don’t have close friendships with people that say these), I have to vent and speak my mind.
Before I say anything else, I want it to be clear that I’m not mad. I’m just frustrated. Just as frustrated you are with my face.
First. I was born with this expression on my face. I have a perpetual unintentional scornful look. My lips are shaped in a way that suggests I’m frowning and unhappy with life. But I’m not. I’m perfectly fine and happy. However, I shouldn’t be obligated to smile every minute at every person I pass by. That’s not normal, I think. So I hope you could just accept that I have an unpleasant facial expression. Accept the fact that I look like I’m getting my mugshot taken all the time.
Second. I do smile at people. When I make eye contact with someone I know, I nod in acknowledgment or simply smile. I don’t, however, smile at strangers/people I’ve barely even struck conversation with. To be clear – I don’t frown at them either. My face is just resting, minding its own business 99% of the time. So take this with no offense: I’m not obligated nor compelled to smile to please you or to refute your suspicions that I am indeed a snob. Especially when we don’t even really know each other.
Third. Don’t tell me what to do. Lalo na kung di kita ka ano-ano. I know you probably mean well but I find it just a tad bit insulting. Please don’t tell me to smile. Please don’t ask me why I’m frowning. Please don’t call me names like simang or sungit. You don’t know me.
Last! I’m actually quite friendly and approachable once you get to know me, given that your intentions are good of course. I enjoy a good and hearty laugh like anyone else. I’m not exactly a social butterfly but I am generally nice and easy to get along with.
In case you still can’t grasp what I’m trying to say here, here’s a video that might help you understand it better.
As a matter of fact, there are well-known people who have the same bitchy resting face as me, people like
So the next time you see me, keep in mind that I’m not angry/sad/pissed. I am simply minding my own business and just being normal. I may look like I’ve been buried in debt but really, on the inside I’m actually all